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ENNEAGRAM AND EMOTIONAL WOUNDS TEST

This test is a mirror of your inner world. Take it in a quiet moment, free from distractions.
Set your ego aside and answer sincerely. Trust your feelings without overthinking.

⏳ Estimated duration: 15 to 20 minutes.

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1. I feel compelled to follow rules and act righteously, even if it puts me under pressure.

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It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

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The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

Your Type 1 personality can develop in an environment where rigor, discipline, and ethics are valued, fostering a strong need to do things well and uphold correctness.
Sometimes, this educational framework can be marked by a certain rigidity, with parents who are rather cold or distant, which amplifies your pursuit of perfection and conformity to standards.

However, it is important to emphasize that each experience is unique.

When family affection is expressed in a more distant way or within a rigid educational framework, this need for validation and correctness is reinforced. It then manifests as an external quest for recognition, where you seek to prove your worth through your achievements and adherence to standards.

Type 1 children internalize these values of rigor and perfection, even in the absence of emotional support or warm affection.

 

You develop character traits oriented toward seeking correctness and excellence.
You are driven to become impeccable and to meet others’ expectations to fill an emotional void, seeking to prove your worth through your achievements. This need for perfection becomes a way to channel your inner anxiety and maintain a sense of control. As you grow, you strive to meet expectations and restore inner balance, relentlessly pursuing perfection, whatever its origin.

 

Seeking validation:

 

  • As a Type 1, you seek the approval of those around you through your acute sense of righteousness and fairness.You are aware of expectations and norms, and you constantly strive to meet them by acting impeccably. Your need to adhere to high standards drives you to prove your worth through the perfection of your actions. You may find yourself trapped in a spiral of self-demand, to the point of forgetting that accepting your imperfections is part of your growth.

 

elf-criticism and criticism of others:

  • You may be highly critical of yourself and others when you feel you fall short of expectations or when the perfection standards you impose are not met.
    This systematic and harsh self-evaluation can also lead you to judge others, especially when you perceive breaches of ethics or fairness.
    You may become uncompromising and struggle to delegate.

 

Need for appreciation:

 

  • You are often guided by a strong desire to be appreciated for your rigor and integrity.
    You seek to win the affection of those around you by constantly striving to be impeccable and fair in your actions. You believe that your efforts must be recognized in order to feel validated.
    This need for appreciation stems from the fact that during your childhood, your perfectionistic side was not always acknowledged by your parents.

 

TYPE 1 INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 7

 

When a Type 1 evolves positively and integrates towards Type 7, they become more open, creative, and spontaneous. They detach from rigid demands and embrace imperfection, thus freeing themselves from the constant pressure of perfection. This manifests as an increased ability to appreciate the present moment, explore new experiences with enthusiasm, and view life from a more optimistic perspective. They express their joy and energy without fear of losing control, while maintaining a pursuit of authenticity and freedom.

 

Relaxation and Emotional Spontaneity:

 

  • In integration towards Type 7, you learn to recognize and express your emotions more fluidly and spontaneously. You become more receptive to the idea of setting aside your quest for perfection and expressing your needs authentically, while finding a balance between your personal standards and your need for pleasure and lightness. This integration allows you to become more relaxed and joyful, while remaining true to your principles.

 

Letting Go of the Need for Perfection:

 

  • In integration towards Type 7, you learn to let go of your obsessive need for perfection and become more flexible in your expectations. You discover the freedom to allow yourself to live spontaneous experiences, while releasing the pressure to control everything. By embracing this lightness, you manage to establish a harmonious balance between giving and receiving, while recognizing your own needs without guilt.
    This opens the way to a more balanced life, in harmony with your deepest aspirations.

Équilibre entre Responsabilité et Plaisir :

 

  • In integration towards Type 7, you learn to reconcile your responsibility toward yourself and others with your desire to fully enjoy life. You become more comfortable with moments of relaxation and pleasure, realizing that it is possible to be productive while savoring lighthearted moments.
    This ability to harmonize the serious and joyful aspects of your life allows you to better manage your internal demands while offering yourself enriching and spontaneous experiences.

 

TYPE 1 DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 4

 

In disintegration towards Type 4, you begin to manifest less positive aspects of your personality.
This results in an intensification of your perfectionistic behaviors and a growing tendency to become increasingly critical of yourself and others.
Your need for control increases, and you gradually move away from your logical and structured approach to focus more on your personal emotions, imposing high standards.

 

Inner Tension and Loss of Logic:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 4, you become increasingly focused on feelings of frustration and devaluation, in response to a sense of not living up to your own expectations.
    You drift away from your values of justice and fairness, both toward yourself and others, becoming more subjective and less attuned to real situations. It becomes difficult for you to accept your own flaws, leading you to adopt a more distant and obsessive attitude.

 

Amplification of the Need for Perfection and Validation:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 4, you become obsessed with the need for validation of your uniqueness and the accuracy of your feelings. You move away from your usual structured and rational logic to immerse yourself in a more intense, sometimes conflicted emotional world.                                                             You focus on what you lack, on what you perceive as imperfect in yourself or others, with heightened sensitivity to injustice or misunderstanding.

Between Perfection and Suffering:

  • You lose your balance between the rigid application of your principles and the acceptance of your human limitations. You become more emotional and unstable, withdrawing into your discomfort rather than maintaining your usual clarity. Your ideal distances you from self-compassion, fueling frustration and self-criticism. You adopt pessimistic attitudes, becoming melancholic and internally conflicted.
    You then feel misunderstood, torn between who you are and who you believe you should be.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS​​

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of never being good enough or meeting expectations, generating a deep fear of being rejected because of your imperfections. This fear of judgment drives you to constantly seek perfection and to correct what you perceive as flaws, both in yourself and in others. Your need to be seen as impeccable becomes a way to compensate for feelings of unworthiness or rejection.
Thus, every action becomes an opportunity to demonstrate your moral worth, to maintain an inner sense of security, and to avoid the pain of being criticized or excluded.

 

Your Abandonment Wound is at:

 

 

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of not being sufficiently acknowledged or recognized for who you are, generating a deep fear of being ignored or abandoned.
This fear of emotional rejection drives you to strive for impeccability and to do everything possible to meet others’ expectations. Your need to be useful and appreciated becomes a way to compensate for this inner emptiness.
Thus, every action becomes an attempt to earn the attention and love of others, in the hope of avoiding the pain of an uncertain emotional bond.

 

WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For you, the betrayal wound manifests as the feeling of having been disappointed or abandoned by people you had trusted, generating a deep fear of betrayal and loss of control.
This feeling drives you to remain vigilant and to seek to maintain control over situations to protect yourself.
Your need for loyalty and reliability becomes central, and you expect the same unwavering commitment from others.
Each interaction then becomes a test of trust, where you attempt to secure the relationship to avoid further hurt.

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WOUND OF BETRAYAL

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For you, the betrayal wound manifests as a persistent feeling of having been deceived or let down by people you had trusted. This feeling generates constant anxiety, tied to the fear of instability and unreliability, driving you to seek strong and loyal relationships. Your need for security and respect is expressed through a firm desire to uphold clear principles and high expectations. Each interaction thus becomes an opportunity to restore a sense of control, in order to prevent any further hurt caused by a breach of trust.

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WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For you, the humiliation wound manifests as the feeling of never being good enough, accompanied by the fear of being judged or criticized for your perceived flaws. This generates constant anxiety, tied to the fear of others' judgment and the fear of failure. You continuously seek approval and recognition for your efforts. You tend to set very high expectations for yourself, interpreting pain or frustration as proof of your commitment.
Each mistake, whether real or perceived, reinforces the belief that you must continue to prove your worth to deserve esteem.

BEHAVIORS OF TYPE 1 UNDER PRESSURE

 

Under pressure, you may exhibit behaviors aimed at reducing the anxiety triggered by the fear of making mistakes or not meeting your own high standards.
These reactions, often unconscious, act as defense mechanisms intended to soothe inner insecurity and the fear of imperfection. They may manifest as excessive rigidity, an increased need to control everything, or a constant drive to be recognized for your accuracy, reliability, and commitment to doing things right.

 

ADDICTION RISKS FOR TYPE 1

 

Type 1, driven by a constant quest for perfection and control, can be vulnerable to certain forms of addiction.
This includes behaviors related to work, exercise, or even eating habits, in response to an internal pressure to always "do things right" and meet unrealistic expectations. These addictive behaviors are often a way to cope with the anxiety triggered by the fear of imperfection or failure.
The need for validation through perfect results can also play a significant role in this dynamic.

 

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by heightened self-criticism and a reluctance to delegate, placing strict adherence to rules above your own well-being. The constant search for control and perfection then becomes a strategy for coping with daily tensions and the frustration of never fully meeting your own standards.
It can also lead to difficulty in accepting imperfection in yourself and others, further reinforcing the constant pressure to master everything.

 

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

You must step out of your tendency toward control and cultivate acceptance of both your own imperfections and those of others. You need to recognize that worth is not found solely in rigor or conformity, but also in kindness and flexibility. By easing internal pressure and allowing yourself the right to make mistakes, you can find a balance between high standards and compassion. Freeing yourself from the fear of doing things wrong allows you to live more peacefully, opening yourself to an inner peace that is not conditioned by perfection.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE

Emmanuel Kant – Marie Curie – George Washington – Greta Thunberg
Joan of Arc – Margaret Mead – Carl Jung – Hillary Clinton
Jane Austen – Eleanor Roosevelt – Emily Dickinson – Confucius

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

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By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

Your Type 2 personality can develop in an environment where love, devotion, and the ability to care for others are highly valued, fostering the emergence of a strong need to please and feel loved.
Sometimes, this educational framework may be marked by conditional affection or by parents who were preoccupied or even absent, which amplifies your need for emotional recognition.
However, it is important to emphasize that each experience is unique.

When family affection is expressed in a more distant way or within a less nurturing educational framework, this need for love and recognition is reinforced and manifests as an external quest for acceptance, where you seek to prove your worth by being helpful and caring.
Type 2 children internalize these values of selflessness and kindness, even in the absence of initial unconditional affection or attention to their personal needs.

 

You develop character traits oriented toward seeking affection and recognition.
You are driven to make yourself indispensable and to meet the needs of others in order to fill an emotional void and prove your worth through your generosity. This need to be loved becomes a way to channel inner anxiety and maintain a sense of connection. As you grow, you strive to maintain harmony and preserve your relationships, giving tirelessly, no matter the demands.

 

Seeking affection and recognition:

 

  • You tend to seek love and approval in your relationships. You have a very acute sense of others’ needs, and you constantly strive to meet them by being attentive and present.
    Your need to be loved drives you to prove your worth through devotion.
    Thus, you often find yourself caught in a cycle of self-giving that can make you forget the importance of listening to your own natural needs.

 

Self-judgment and relational disappointment:

  • You may be highly critical of yourself and others when you do not receive the affection or recognition you had hoped for in return. This implicit expectation pushes you to judge your efforts harshly or to feel frustrated with those who seem less invested. This demanding inner view can nurture a form of relational disappointment, leading you to believe that your worth depends on what you give.
    You may become intrusive or overly present, and experience difficulty letting go.

 

Need for appreciation:

 

You are often guided by a strong desire to be appreciated for your kindness and devotion.
You seek to earn the affection of those around you by constantly being available and attentive to their needs.
You believe that your generosity must be recognized in order to be fully valued.
This need for appreciation stems from the fact that, during your childhood, your expressions of affection were not always heard or valued for what they truly were.

When family affection is expressed in a more distant way or within an educational framework that values performance and results above all, this need for success and recognition is reinforced and manifests as an external quest for achievements, where you seek to prove your worth through accomplishments and performance.

Type 3 children internalize these values of efficiency and success, even in the absence of attention to their personal needs.

You develop character traits oriented toward the pursuit of achievement and prestige. You are driven to reach goals and to impress others in order to fill an inner void and prove your worth through success. This need to be successful becomes a way to channel inner anxiety and maintain your self-esteem.

As you grow, you strive to preserve your image of competence, working tirelessly to achieve results regardless of the personal cost.

Seeking success and recognition:

You tend to seek approval through your accomplishments in both relationships and goals.

You adapt your image to expectations, striving to appear efficient and successful.

Your need for recognition feeds your focus on objectives and performance, often trapping you in a cycle of achievement that makes you forget your own emotional needs.

 

TYPE 2 INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 4

 

In integration towards Type 4, you develop the positive aspects of your personality.
This results in an increased ability to refocus on yourself and recognize your own needs.
You learn to express your emotions sincerely and to detach from the need to please, allowing you to cultivate more authentic relationships while remaining true to your generosity. This evolution fosters a healthier balance in your relationships, offering you the opportunity to explore your inner world with sensitivity and depth.


Emotional Connection and Authentic Expression:

  • In integration towards Type 4, you learn to recognize and express your emotions in a more sincere and personal way. You become more receptive to setting aside your need to be useful at all costs and to welcoming your feelings with gentleness, while finding a balance between your impulses of generosity and your own need for emotional recognition. This integration allows you to show greater vulnerability and authenticity, while remaining true to your sensitivity.


Letting Go of the Need to Be Indispensable:

  • In integration towards Type 4, you learn to release your constant need to make yourself indispensable and to become more attentive to your own feelings. You discover the freedom to allow yourself to exist for yourself, without systematically trying to fulfill others’ needs. By embracing this authenticity, you manage to establish a healthy balance between giving and receiving, while respecting your emotions and your boundaries.
    This opens the way to a more aligned life, in harmony with your inner truth.

 

Balance Between Self-Giving and Personal Fulfillment:

 

  • In integration towards Type 4, you learn to reconcile your natural need to help others with a deeper listening to your own aspirations. You become more comfortable with the idea of refocusing on yourself without feeling guilty, realizing that it is possible to love without self-sacrifice.
    This ability to harmonize care for others and self-respect allows you to better manage your emotional impulses while offering yourself more sincere and nourishing relationships.

 

TYPE 2 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 8

 

In disintegration towards Type 8, you begin to manifest the less positive aspects of your personality.
This results in an intensification of your intrusive behaviors and a tendency to control others or impose your presence. Your need to be useful transforms into a desire to maintain relational power, and you gradually distance yourself from your natural kindness, adopting a more directive, even authoritarian stance, in the hope of preserving emotional bonds.

 

Inner Tension and Loss of Kindness:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 8, you become increasingly focused on emotions of anger and rejection, in response to a feeling of not being sufficiently recognized or valued. You disconnect from your natural generosity and your need for harmony, becoming more demanding and reactive toward others.
    It becomes difficult for you to trust, leading you to adopt a more rigid and controlling attitude in your relationships.

Amplification of the Need for Recognition and Validation:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 8, you become obsessed with the need for validation of your usefulness and emotional importance. You move away from your usual gentleness toward others, shifting into a more demanding, sometimes authoritarian posture. You focus on what is not being given back to you, on what you perceive as unfair in your relationships, with an intensified sensitivity to rejection, indifference, or lack of recognition.

Between Generosity and Suffering:

 

  • You lose your balance between giving of yourself and recognizing your own personal needs.
    You become more emotional and unstable, withdrawing into a sense of lack rather than cultivating your usual openness. Your need to be indispensable distances you from self-love, fueling frustration and exhaustion.
    You adopt self-sacrificing attitudes, becoming melancholic and inwardly conflicted.
    You then feel torn between what you give and what you hope to receive.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

​WOUND OF REJECTION

 

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of never being loved enough for who you are, generating a deep fear of being rejected if you do not meet others' expectations. This fear of losing love drives you to make yourself indispensable and to do everything possible to fulfill others' needs, even at the expense of your own. Your need to be seen as loving and devoted becomes a way to compensate for a sense of emotional emptiness.
Thus, each gesture becomes an opportunity to prove your relational value, to preserve the bond, and to avoid the pain of being ignored or pushed away.

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of not being sufficiently acknowledged or recognized for who you are, generating a deep fear of being ignored or abandoned.
This fear of emotional rejection drives you to make yourself indispensable and to do everything possible to satisfy others' needs. Your need to be loved and appreciated becomes a way to compensate for this emotional emptiness.
Thus, each action becomes an attempt to earn the attention and presence of the other, in the hope of avoiding the pain of an uncertain emotional connection.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For you, the injustice wound manifests as the feeling of not being recognized for your true worth despite your efforts to help and support others, generating deep frustration and a sense of emotional inequity.
This feeling drives you to do more in order to prove your worth and dedication.
Your need to be appreciated fairly becomes central, and you expect genuine recognition from others.
Thus, each interaction becomes a quest for validation, where you hope for a fair return in proportion to what you give.

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WOUND OF BETRAYAL

For you, the betrayal wound manifests as the persistent feeling of having been abandoned or betrayed by those to whom you had given your affection and trust. This feeling generates constant anxiety related to the fear of being used or rejected despite your devotion, driving you to seek sincere and reliable relationships.
Your need for emotional loyalty translates into a deep investment in the bonds you create.
Thus, each interaction becomes an opportunity to secure the relationship, in order to prevent any further wounds related to a betrayed attachment.

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WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For you, the humiliation wound manifests as the feeling of never being worthy of love, accompanied by the fear of being judged or rejected despite your efforts.
This generates anxiety related to the fear of not being recognized for your devotion.
You constantly seek approval and emotional acceptance from those around you.
You tend to put others' needs before your own, interpreting the lack of reciprocation as a sign of inadequacy.
Each real or perceived neglect reinforces the idea that you must give even more to deserve love.

BEHAVIORS OF TYPE 2 UNDER PRESSURE

Under pressure, you exhibit behaviors aimed at alleviating the anxiety generated by the fear of not being loved or not being recognized for your dedication. These reactions, often unconscious, act as defense mechanisms to calm an inner insecurity and the constant fear of emotional abandonment.
They manifest as excessive involvement in others' needs, self-neglect, or a constant desire to be appreciated for your attention, generosity, and commitment.

 

THE RISK OF ADDICTION FOR TYPE 2

 

When you feel the anxiety of not being loved enough or disappointing those who matter to you, you may seek to compensate for this discomfort by adopting addictive behaviors, such as emotional over-investment, excessive helping, or constant presence with others.
These reactions, often unconscious, act as defense mechanisms aimed at soothing emotional insecurity and the fear of being rejected or forgotten by those around you.

 

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by an implicit expectation of recognition and difficulty setting boundaries, placing the needs of others above your own well-being.
The constant search for approval becomes an escape from emotional tensions and the fear of not being loved for who you are. The lack of attention to your own needs or sufficient emotional feedback worsens the situation, making it particularly difficult to break free from this cycle.

 

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

To avoid disintegration, you must learn to step away from your tendency to over-invest emotionally and cultivate a compassionate listening to your own needs. It is essential to recognize that love is not earned solely through self-sacrifice, but also through authenticity and reciprocity. By accepting to receive as much as you give, and setting your boundaries, you can find a balance between altruism and self-respect.
Freeing yourself from the fear of not being loved allows you to experience fairer and more fulfilling relationships.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

 

Mère Teresa – Diana, Princesse de Galles – Oprah Winfrey – Desmond Tutu
Fred Rogers – Florence Nightingale – Stevie Wonder – Dolly Parton
Jennifer Garner – Anne Sullivan – Whitney Houston – Danny Glover​​

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

​​

By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

Your Type 3 personality can develop in an environment where success, performance, and recognition are valued, thus fostering the emergence of a strong need to shine and meet external expectations. Sometimes, this educational framework may be marked by conditional approval—where love seems to depend on results or the image you project—which reinforces your quest for validation through action. Yet it is important to note that each experience is unique.

For some, especially when familial love is expressed conditionally or tied to outcomes, this need for recognition is further strengthened and manifests as an external pursuit of success, in which you seek to prove your worth by being high-achieving and admired by others.

Type 3 children internalize these values of achievement and efficiency, even in the initial absence of sincere encouragement to be loved for who they are, independent of their accomplishments.

​You develop character traits oriented toward the pursuit of achievement and recognition.
You are driven to be constantly productive and to meet others’ expectations in order to fill a void of validation and prove your worth through your accomplishments.

As you grow, you strive to forge strong connections and restore inner balance by relentlessly pursuing the desire to be admired for your performance and success.

Seeking Recognition:

Type 3s tend to seek recognition and admiration in their relationships. You place great importance on symbols of success and value, and you strive to create connections that allow you to demonstrate your skills. Your desire to be admired drives you to invest fully in your performance, hoping thereby to fulfill your need for accomplishment. Thus, you often find yourself caught in a dynamic where the quest for success becomes a central driver of your daily behavior.

Self-Evaluation and Sensitivity to Success:

You can be particularly sensitive toward yourself and others when you perceive a lack of recognition or when your expectations of success are not met. This tendency to evaluate yourself with rigor can lead you to doubt your worth, perceiving any absence of success as a personal failure.

You then become vulnerable to criticism, seeking to fill that void through overinvestment in your performances and a constant need for validation.

Quest for Recognition and Success:

Type 3s are often motivated by a deep desire to be admired and recognized for their achievements and efficiency. You strive to earn approval from those around you by demonstrating competence and high performance. You are convinced that your value is measured by your achievements and your ability to meet objectives. This need for validation often originates from the fact that, during your childhood, the emphasis was placed on results rather than on the expression of your emotions.

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TYPE 3 IN INTEGRATION TOWARD TYPE 6:

 

  • Type 3 tends to develop the positive aspects of their personality. This is reflected in their ability to become more authentic and embrace their emotions without filtering them. They learn to value cooperation, recognize their vulnerabilities, and seek relationships based on trust and loyalty. By freeing themselves from the need for success and recognition, they focus on more genuine connections, thereby strengthening their sense of security while staying true to their values of teamwork and support.

 

Authenticity and Connection with Self

  • The Type 3, in integration, learns to listen to and express their emotions in a more authentic and relaxed manner. They become more inclined to free themselves from the pressure of constantly meeting external expectations and begin to prioritize their emotional needs. This transformation allows them to savor moments of inner satisfaction while staying true to their values of teamwork and support. In doing so, they reconnect with their true identity and fully accept themselves.

Self-Affirmation and Respect for One's Needs:

  • The Type 3, in integration towards Type 6, begins to affirm their true identity not only in their external successes but also in their relationship with themselves. They discover the value of their emotional needs and learn to acknowledge them without judgment, realizing that they too deserve time for themselves and self-compassion. This process of self-affirmation allows them to find a natural balance between ambition and self-care, paving the way for more sincere and authentic relationships.

Liberation from the Need to Meet Others' Expectations:

  • The Type 3 learns to detach from the constant pressure of meeting external expectations and becomes more flexible in their actions. They discover the freedom to allow themselves to be authentic, without always striving to project a perfect image or meet performance demands. By adopting this lightness, they manage to find a balance between ambition and self-acceptance, while respecting their personal needs and giving themselves time, without judgment.

THE TYPE 3 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 9:

  • When a Type 3 disintegrates towards Type 9, they begin to manifest less positive aspects of their personality. This is reflected in a tendency to disconnect from their emotions and become more passive. The need for performance diminishes, and the Type 3 starts withdrawing from their goals, seeking to avoid conflict and maintain peace at all costs. They may become more inclined to let themselves be carried by others' expectations, losing their dynamism and effectiveness in favor of a retreat into tranquility and inaction.

Emotional Tension and Loss of Authenticity:

 

  • The Type 3, disintegrating towards Type 9, becomes increasingly focused on emotions of frustration and inner emptiness in response to a lack of recognition. They disconnect from their values of authenticity and personal connection, becoming more distant and insensitive to their true needs. This disintegration makes it difficult to accept their true emotions, leading them to adopt a more apathetic and detached attitude, seeking to avoid conflict or failure rather than expressing their authentic emotional needs.

Amplification of the Need for Success and Validation:

 

  • The Type 3, in disintegration, becomes obsessed with the need for recognition and success. They seek to stand out through their achievements and image, while distancing themselves from their true emotions. They may focus on performance and accomplishment to fill an inner void, which creates a disconnection from their authentic values. Dissatisfaction becomes increasingly present as they stray from the sincerity of their motivations and their quest for personal fulfillment.

 

Conflict Between Success and Authenticity:

 

  • In disintegration, the Type 3 loses their balance between achieving and being authentic. They become more focused on appearance and accomplishment, seeking to dominate situations to assert their image rather than approaching them with sincerity. This need for validation intensifies, and they detach from their emotions and deep values, increasing internal tension and disconnection from their true desires. This shift illustrates how stress and the fear of failure push them to act in contradiction to their identity.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

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It is characterized by the persistent feeling of not being sufficiently recognized or appreciated for what you accomplish. This feeling generates an intense fear of failure and invisibility, pushing you to constantly seek admiration and validation for your achievements. The need to feel valued and accepted is expressed by a desire to prove your worth through exceptional performances, thus compensating for the pain of rejection and the fear of inadequacy. Therefore, each accomplishment becomes an opportunity to confirm your success and restore your inner balance in the face of the fear of not being sufficiently recognized.​​

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

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It is manifested by a constant feeling of not being sufficiently recognized or appreciated for your achievements. This lack of external validation generates anxiety, fueled by the fear of failure or invisibility. In an effort to fill this void, you invest yourself fully in your accomplishments, constantly seeking to prove your worth.

As a result, each success becomes an attempt to overcome the fear of not being sufficiently admired, ensuring that you are seen, appreciated, and indispensable, while trying to compensate for the pain of not being truly recognized for who you are.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE

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For Profile 3, injustice is characterized by the feeling of not receiving the recognition or admiration deserved for your achievements. This feeling triggers deep frustration and the fear of never meeting external expectations, driving you to relentlessly seek approval through your successes.

The need for personal justice manifests as a desire to conform to ideals of perfection, striving to eliminate any form of criticism or failure. Each success thus becomes an opportunity to restore a sense of balance and validation in your relationships and in your own image.

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WOUND OF BETRAYAL

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For Profile 3, betrayal manifests as the persistent feeling of being underestimated or ignored in your efforts to succeed and shine. This feeling generates constant anxiety, fueled by the fear of not being recognized for your accomplishments and losing the admiration of those around you. As a result, you relentlessly seek relationships based on the recognition and appreciation of your successes, in order to feel valued and respected. Each interaction thus becomes an opportunity to restore your image of success and strengthen your professional and personal connections.

 

WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For Profile 3, the humiliation wound is characterized by the feeling of not being sufficiently recognized for your successes and achievements, or the fear of not receiving the expected validation. This anxiety, tied to the fear of failure, drives you to constantly seek admiration for your accomplishments.

You may be inclined to set unrealistic expectations for yourself, interpreting any lack of recognition as proof of your inadequacy. Thus, every effort becomes an attempt to prove that you deserve to be recognized and appreciated for what you achieve.

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BEHAVIORS OF PROFILE 3 UNDER PRESSURE

 

Under pressure, as a Profile 3, you may exhibit behaviors aimed at calming the anxiety generated by the fear of failure or not being recognized for your achievements. These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to alleviate personal insecurity and the fear of invisibility.

They manifest as overactivity, a tendency to neglect your personal needs, or a constant need to be valued for your success and efficiency.

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THE ADDICTION RISKS FOR PROFILE 3:

 

When a Profile 3 feels overwhelmed by the fear of not measuring up, they compensate for this discomfort by over-investing in their performance and seeking to prove their worth through their achievements. These compensatory behaviors are often a response to the anxiety generated by the fear of failure or invisibility, attempting to gain the admiration or recognition they feel is lacking. The focus on achieving goals then becomes a way to restore their inner balance and feel valued for their accomplishments.

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by heightened self-criticism and a tendency to over-invest, where the need to succeed takes precedence over respecting personal boundaries. The constant search for validation and recognition becomes an escape from daily tensions and the frustration of never receiving the admiration expected. The lack of personal validation or authentic support exacerbates the situation, making it particularly difficult to break free from this cycle.

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

The Type 3 must learn to move away from self-exploitation and cultivate genuine self-care. They must recognize that recognition is not only earned through performance, but also through authenticity. By daring to detach from the image they project and giving themselves personal recognition, they must find a balance between ambition and self-respect. Freeing themselves from the fear of not being recognized allows them to build more sincere connections and open up to more authentic relationships.

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PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE

 

Oprah Winfrey – Elon Musk – Arnold Schwarzenegger – Beyoncé

Tom Cruise – Madonna – Dwayne Johnson – Bill Clinton

Taylor Swift – Will Smith – Sheryl Sandberg – Cristiano Ronaldo​​

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

​​

By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

Your Type 4 personality can develop in an environment where artistic expression, sensitivity, and authenticity are valued, fostering a strong need for personal expression and the search for meaning.

Sometimes, this educational framework may be marked by particular attention to uniqueness or conditional affection, which amplifies your quest for identity and emotional validation. However, it is important to note that each experience is unique.

For some, especially when familial love seems to condition your uniqueness or your sensitivity has not been fully understood, your need to feel special and authentic becomes stronger. This can then translate into a constant search for identity and an intensification of your emotions, where you try to distinguish yourself by asserting your difference and cultivating inner depth. This dynamic can sometimes distance you from your personal growth, leading you to focus more on what makes you unique.

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Children of Profile 4 integrate early on the idea that their value is tied to their uniqueness and the depth of their emotions. In an environment where self-expression and authenticity are paramount, you learn to stand out by cultivating your sensitivity and seeking to give meaning to your experiences. Even in the absence of constant validation or a stable sense of belonging, you develop traits focused on introspection, creativity, and the search for identity.

Search for Identity:

 

  • Individuals of Profile 4 tend to seek a deep sense of meaning and validation of their uniqueness in their relationships. You are highly sensitive to authenticity and the expression of your individuality, striving to stand out through your originality and emotional intensity. Your need to feel unique drives you to affirm your difference and cultivate an image that reflects your inner depth. You aspire to establish genuine connections that nurture your search for identity and reinforce your sense of belonging.

Demand for Authenticity:

 

  • Individuals of Profile 4 can be very demanding of themselves and others when they feel that relationships or experiences lack sincerity.                                                                                                                     You tend to judge your own worth based on your ability to be unique and authentic, and you may experience deep frustration when you perceive a lack of depth or meaning in your surroundings. You aspire for your interactions to reflect the authenticity you value, seeking to establish a genuine connection.

Need for Emotional Recognition:

 

  • Individuals of Profile 4 are deeply driven by the desire to be seen and appreciated for their delicacy and originality. You do not seek to be defined by external successes, but by the richness of your inner world and the depth of your emotions, convinced that your true value is revealed through the expression of what makes you unique. You aspire to forge sincere and intimate relationships that reflect the singularity of your being and nourish your constant quest for identity.

 

PROFILE 4 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 1

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In integration, you develop the most constructive facets of your personality. Your sensitivity and creativity thrive, allowing you to reveal the full richness of your uniqueness. You fully embrace your relational and artistic commitments, cultivating your aspirations and transforming each challenge into an opportunity for growth. This integrative approach helps soothe your emotional wounds, thereby strengthening your ability to fully realize yourself and manifest your authentic essence.

 

Release of the Need for Recognition:

 

  • In integration, you learn to express your emotions authentically. You become more attuned to your own feelings and those of others, developing a sincerity that replaces the need to stand out through forced eccentricity. This approach allows you to free yourself from the pressure of constantly proving your uniqueness and to cultivate relationships based on understanding. By embracing your vulnerability, you discover that authenticity becomes a strength aligned with your inner values.

Release of the Need for Perfection:

  • In integration, you detach from the imperative to express ostentatious originality or to conform your image to a dramatic idealization. You understand that your value is not solely based on the intensity of your emotions or the expression of your uniqueness. You discover the importance of being appreciated for your true sensitivity, rather than for an idealized image. By adopting this perspective, you become more at peace in building authentic and balanced relationships, thereby redefining your self-esteem.

Balance between Authenticity and Emotional Commitment:

  • In integration, you learn to harmonize your need for expression with sincere commitment to others. You become aware of the importance of creating authentic connections, realizing that you can share the richness of your inner world without compromising your sensitivity. This ability to combine self-expression with relational openness allows you to invest deeply in your interactions. Your emotional richness lies in the balance between uniqueness and sharing with those around you.

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PROFILE 4 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 2

  • In disintegration, you tend to develop less constructive aspects of your personality. This results in a loss of the sensitivity and creativity that define you. You avoid your relational and artistic responsibilities, as well as your aspirations, thus seeking to avoid any challenge to your identity. It is an avoidance strategy that offers temporary protection against wounds but compromises your ability to fully realize yourself and express your true essence.

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Loss of Motivation and Avoidance of Challenges:

 

  • In disintegration, when you notice a decrease in your creative energy and a tendency to avoid experiences that nourish your uniqueness, you withdraw from situations that stimulate your sensitivity and refuse to face challenges that help you grow. Your need to live intensely weakens, distancing you from the passionate engagement that would characterize your essence. This regression limits your ability to express your individuality, thus depriving you of the authentic fulfillment you could achieve.

Apathy and Progressive Disengagement:

  • In disintegration, you are characterized by a gradual erosion of the emotional depth that once drove you, adopting a detached attitude towards your experiences. Overwhelmed by inner fatigue, you disengage from your quest for personal expression, isolating yourself from what once constituted your inner richness. This emotional inertia manifests as a withdrawal from your passions, distancing you from your creative and introspective world.

 

Avoidance of Conflicts and Passivity:

  • In disintegration, you lose the strength to defend your uniqueness, opting for the avoidance of confrontations that could challenge your identity. Instead of facing disagreements, you adopt a passive attitude, characteristic of the intensity of your emotional interactions. This passivity deprives you of the opportunity to nurture your quest for authenticity, preventing you from realizing yourself. You lock yourself in silence, hindering your ability to evolve and reconnect with your true essence.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For Profile 4, the rejection wound is characterized by a deep fear of not being fully understood or valued for your uniqueness. This feeling manifests as a sense of not being sufficiently appreciated for the richness of your inner world and your distinctive sensitivity.

You end up emphasizing your uniqueness and expressing your emotions intensely, seeking validation that sometimes feels out of reach. Thus, each expression of your being becomes an attempt to prove your worth and fill the void left by misunderstanding.

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WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

For Profile 4, the abandonment wound manifests as a visceral fear of being emotionally neglected or ignored when your depth is not recognized. This lack of authentic connection generates intense anxiety, pushing you to passionately invest in your relationships to fill this emotional void. You oscillate between the desire for a deep, fusion-like intimacy and the fear of being left behind, making each interaction an attempt to ensure that you are seen, heard, and valued for your true essence. Thus, you aspire to form connections that resonate with your truly deep being.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For Profile 4, the injustice wound is characterized by the feeling that your sensitivity and worldview are neither respected nor recognized fairly. You feel deep frustration when the richness of your emotions and the uniqueness of your perspective are minimized or ignored. This need for emotional justice drives you to assert your right to express your originality, with each interaction becoming an opportunity to reaffirm the validity of your unique experience. Thus, you transform each exchange into an affirmation of your value, ensuring that your authentic voice is heard.

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WOUND OF BETRAYAL

For Profile 4, the betrayal wound is reflected by a constant fear of being emotionally abandoned by those you have placed your trust in. You are particularly sensitive to the slightest signs of disengagement or change in your relationships, leading you to doubt the sincerity of the bonds you have formed. This fear drives you to tirelessly seek intense and authentic relationships, while oscillating between passion and mistrust to protect your inner world. Thus, each interaction becomes a test of loyalty for you, where you attempt to secure the affection necessary for your emotional balance.

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WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For Profile 4, the humiliation wound manifests as a fear of being judged for the depth of your emotions and the way you express your sensitivity.

You fear being seen as too intense or dramatic, which sometimes leads you to hide your vulnerability or exaggerate certain traits to control the image others have of you.

Thus, every criticism or apparent rejection feeds your fear of never being fully understood or accepted for who you truly are, turning your uniqueness into a constant quest for affirmation.

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BEHAVIORS OF PROFILE 4 UNDER PRESSURE

 

Under pressure, as a Profile 4, you may exhibit behaviors aimed at alleviating the anxiety generated by the fear of losing your identity or not being understood in your uniqueness. These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to preserve your individuality and avoid abandonment. They manifest as emotional intensification, a tendency towards melancholic withdrawal, or a constant need to be recognized for your depth and sensitivity.

 

THE ADDICTION RISKS IN PROFILE 4

 

When a Type 4 feels overwhelmed by an inner emptiness or the fear of being misunderstood or rejected in their authenticity, they may seek to compensate for this discomfort by amplifying their emotional world and identifying with their suffering.

These compensatory behaviors are often a response to the fear of being ordinary or disconnected from their true identity, thus attempting to preserve a sense of uniqueness and personal value.

An emotional intensification can become a stress management mechanism, where withdrawal, idealization of the past, or dramatization of one's experiences provide temporary refuge from the feeling of abandonment or not belonging.

The need to express one's difference, the quest for intense emotions, or the rejection of banality can become unconscious ways of protecting oneself from the pain of being ignored, unloved, or perceived as ordinary.

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

You need to learn to move away from your tendency towards emotional intensity and cultivate an inner stability detached from mood fluctuations. You must recognize that authenticity is not measured by the depth of suffering, but by the ability to live the present simply. By developing a self-image less defined by lack or difference, you will find a balance between self-expression and grounding in reality. Freeing yourself from the fear of being ordinary allows you to live peaceful relationships, beyond nostalgia.

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PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE

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Frida Kahlo – Tim Burton – Virginia Woolf – Johnny Depp
Kurt Cobain – David Bowie – Edgar Allan Poe – Florence Welch
Prince – Joaquin Phoenix – Lana Del Rey – Vincent van Gogh​

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

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By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

Your Profile 5 Personality can develop in an environment where autonomy, intellectual independence, and discretion are valued, fostering a strong need for understanding and withdrawal to observe the world.
Sometimes, this educational framework can be marked by emotional coldness or a lack of emotional stimulation, which heightens your need to retreat in order to feel safe. However, it is important to note that each experience is unique.

When familial affection is distant or emotional exchanges are limited, your need for autonomy becomes stronger. This may lead you to cut yourself off from others to protect your inner world and shield yourself from an environment you perceive as intrusive. Profile 5 children develop a form of vigilance towards external expectations and seek to create a stable world through knowledge, reflection, and analysis, sometimes at the cost of emotional connection.

 

You develop traits focused on mastery, observation, and reflection.

You are driven to maintain your distance to avoid being overwhelmed, preferring to understand things before becoming emotionally involved.

This need for withdrawal becomes a way to channel inner anxiety and maintain a sense of control.

As you grow, you seek to secure your mental and emotional space by minimizing external demands.

 

Intellectual Security Seeking:

 

  • You tend to seek stability in understanding and mastering the subjects that fascinate you. You have a keen analytical sense, and you strive to accumulate knowledge to anticipate situations and avoid the unexpected. Your need to know becomes a form of protection against emotional uncertainty. Thus, you often find yourself in chosen isolation, allowing you to preserve your inner balance, although at the risk of hindering your relational openness.

 

Restraint and Inner Criticism:

  • You can be highly critical of yourself, especially when you feel that you do not have enough intellectual resources to face external demands. This inner judgment can sometimes lead you to downplay your skills or withdraw, fearing that you won’t live up to expectations. You may also develop a form of mistrust toward others, especially if you feel an intrusion into your personal space or an emotional expectation that you do not feel ready to fulfill.

 

Need for Recognition of Your Expertise:

 

  • You are often guided by a desire to be recognized for your skills, clarity, or analytical abilities. You seek to earn the respect of those around you through your intellectual rigor, without always exposing yourself emotionally. You are convinced that your value is measured by the quality of your reflection. This need for recognition stems from the fact that, during your childhood, your sensitivity or tendency to withdraw was not always understood or valued.

 

PROFILE 5 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 8

 

As a Profile 5, in integration towards Type 8, you dare to assert your inner strength and take your place in the world. You gradually develop the ability to act with confidence and fully commit. Your analytical thinking transforms into decisive action because you trust your ability to influence. You learn to defend your ideas and share your knowledge, while maintaining your intellectual standards. This evolution nurtures your self-confidence and enriches your relationships.

 

Power and Self-Assertion:

 

  • In integration towards Type 8, you learn to deploy your inner strength and assert yourself with confidence. You become bolder in taking initiatives and defending your beliefs. This transformation pushes you to act decisively and inspire confidence around you. You combine your analytical rigor with a strong presence, while staying true to your authenticity. This integration enables you to feel powerful and engaged, reinforcing both your leadership and impact.


Release of Intellectual Restraint:

  • In integration towards Type 8, you gradually give in to the urge to act rather than analyze every detail.
    You discover the freedom to fully engage, without mentally dissecting each situation. By letting go of your intellectual over-control, you make room for confident, decisive actions. This new boldness balances your natural rigor with an assertive pragmatism. This process opens you to a more dynamic life where your potential is realized through action, while remaining true to your values of excellence.

 

Balance Between Responsibility and Boldness:

 

  • In integration towards Type 8, you learn to combine your sense of duty with the assertion of your beliefs. You gain ease in making decisions without compromising your rigor or commitment. You discover that it is possible to mix seriousness with boldness, defending your ideas while taking responsibility for your choices. This harmony between responsibility and action opens the door to experiences where your leadership aligns with your sense of service, creating more dynamic and balanced relationships.

 

PROFILE 5 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 7

 

In disintegration towards Type 7, you begin to manifest less positive aspects of your personality.
This results in an intensification of your avoidance behaviors and a tendency to scatter yourself in intellectual stimuli or distractions.

Your need for control decreases, and you gradually detach from your methodical, structured approach, seeking to escape deep emotions through mental activity or the search for novelty.

 

Internal Tension and Loss of Clarity:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 7, you become more centered on feelings of frustration and devaluation, in response to a sense of not measuring up to your expectations.                                                                 You distance yourself from your structured logic and principles, becoming more scattered and detached from actual facts. It becomes difficult for you to accept your own limits, which leads you to adopt a more irrational attitude, obsessed with seeking distractions.

Amplification of the Need for Control and Isolation:

 

  • In disintegration towards Type 7, you become obsessed with seeking new experiences or stimuli to escape anxiety. You distance yourself from your analytical and rational approach, losing yourself in a quest for pleasure or superficial distractions.                                                                                                        You focus on what you lack, on what is imperfect in your knowledge or environment, with an exacerbated sensitivity to uncertainty or lack of control.

Loss of Clarity and Balance:

  • You lose the balance between rationally analyzing your actions and accepting your emotional limits. You become distant and withdrawn into your thoughts, focusing on your lack of resources. Your need for control distances you from recognizing your emotional needs, feeding frustration and self-criticism. You adopt a more analytical and introverted attitude, becoming isolated. You feel misunderstood, torn between the pursuit of knowledge and the reality of your emotions.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of never being sufficiently recognized or appreciated for what you accomplish. This sensation generates a deep fear of failure and invisibility, driving you to constantly seek admiration and validation for your achievements.

The need to feel in control of your subjects becomes a way to compensate for inner insecurity. Thus, each action becomes an opportunity to prove your expertise, maintain mental balance, and protect yourself from feelings of weakness or inadequacy.

 

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

For you, this wound manifests as a persistent feeling of not being sufficiently acknowledged or recognized for who you are, generating a deep fear of being ignored or abandoned.
This fear of emotional rejection drives you to present yourself as flawless and to do everything you can to meet the expectations of others. Your need to be useful and appreciated becomes a way to compensate for this inner void. Thus, each action becomes an attempt to deserve attention and love from others, in the hope of avoiding the pain of an uncertain emotional bond.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE


For you, the injustice wound manifests when your intellectual or emotional needs are not fully recognized or considered. This perception of inequity leads you to withdraw, seeking to protect your inner space from any perceived intrusion as unjust. Your need for control becomes more pronounced, and you feel frustrated when a situation seems to lack logic or fairness. Every interaction becomes a power struggle, where you seek to ensure an environment that respects your need for independence and reflection, protecting yourself from compromises you deem irrational or unjust.

WOUND OF BETRAYAL

For you, the betrayal wound manifests as the persistent feeling of having been deceived or let down by people in whom you placed your trust.  This feeling generates constant anxiety, linked to a fear of instability and lack of reliability, pushing you to seek solid and loyal relationships. Your need for security and respect translates into a firm desire to maintain clear principles and high expectations. Each interaction then becomes an opportunity to restore a sense of control, preventing any new wound linked to a betrayal of trust.

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WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For you, the humiliation wound manifests as the fear of being judged for the depth of your emotions and the way you express your sensitivity.

You dread being perceived as too intense or dramatic, which sometimes leads you to mask your vulnerability or exaggerate certain traits to control the image others have of you. Thus, every criticism or apparent rejection feeds your fear of never being fully understood or accepted for who you truly are, turning your uniqueness into a constant quest for affirmation.

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BEHAVIORS OF PROFILE 5 UNDER PRESSURE

Under pressure, you exhibit behaviors aimed at reducing the anxiety generated by the fear of being unprepared or lacking control. These unconscious reactions act as defense mechanisms to soothe inner insecurity and the fear of uncertainty.

They may manifest as a tendency to accumulate knowledge, an excessive need to withdraw for reflection, or a desire to maintain control over every situation to protect your emotional and intellectual safety.

 

THE RISKS OF ADDICTION FOR PROFILE 5

 

When you experience anxiety from not being able to control the situation or from lacking the intellectual resources to face the unknown, you may compensate for this discomfort by retreating into excessive accumulation of knowledge, isolation, or other forms of withdrawal.

These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to soothe the fear of uncertainty and lack of control over situations.

 

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by a tendency to ignore your emotional needs and avoid opening up to others, favoring rigid logic over your well-being.

The constant quest for mastery and understanding becomes a way to escape uncertainty and the frustration of never being sufficiently prepared. The lack of recognition of your limits worsens the situation, making it difficult to break free from this cycle.

 

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

You must learn to move away from your tendency to control everything and more calmly accept your own imperfections and those of others. It is essential to recognize that your value does not solely lie in knowledge or self-sufficiency, but also in openness and adaptability. By releasing the pressure of isolation and accepting uncertainty, you will find a balance between autonomy and connection. Freeing yourself from the fear of incompetence allows you to live peacefully, cultivating an inner peace not conditioned by absolutes.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

Albert Einstein – Stephen Hawking – Nikola Tesla – Carl Sagan
Isaac Newton – Sigmund Freud – Immanuel Kant – Richard Feynman
Ludwig Wittgenstein – René Descartes – Emily Dickinson – Thomas Edison

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

​​

By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

The personality of the 6 can develop in an environment where security and loyalty are highly valued. From childhood, these individuals may have been encouraged to seek answers to security questions, analyzing the risks that govern their environment. Sometimes, this educational framework emphasizes caution and vigilance rather than independence or personal reflection, which can lead the 6 to become distrustful, developing a tendency to attach to external support structures.

 

When family affection seems to depend on their ability to handle challenges on their own, the need for security and understanding strengthens. This can then translate into a quest for knowledge and a tendency to minimize the importance of emotions, where the individual seeks reassurance by accumulating information and specializing in specific areas. This leads them to prioritize observation and reflection over connection with others, which can intensify feelings of isolation and emotional disconnection.


The 6s quickly internalize the idea that their value is linked to their ability to anticipate risks and ensure their safety. In an environment where caution and loyalty are valued, they learn to observe with vigilance and accumulate information to feel reassured. Even in the absence of emotional support, they develop traits focused on preparation and managing uncertainties. They are driven to analyze dangers, seeking to fulfill a need for security by staying close to trusted individuals.

Search for Security

  • Individuals of type 6 tend to seek guarantees and external support that reassure them in the face of uncertainty. They are highly sensitive to the stability and reliability of relationships and systems, striving to secure themselves in a predictable environment.                                                                                    Their need to feel protected drives them to seek advice and external opinions, often focusing on risk prevention and constantly evaluating potential threats..

 

Demand for Trust

  • Type 6 individuals can be demanding of themselves and others when they feel loyalty or predictability is compromised. They assess their own value through their ability to anticipate problems and maintain trustworthy relationships. They may feel deep frustration when they perceive inconsistencies or unpredictable behaviors in their environment. This search for security drives them to seek alliances to protect themselves from uncertainties, sometimes at the expense of their spontaneity.

 

Need for Relational Stability

  • Type 6 individuals are often guided by a strong desire for security in their relationships and a need to maintain reliable connections with others. They seek to be recognized for their loyalty and reliability, not just for their expertise or independence.                                                                                                            Convinced that their value lies in their ability to protect and support, they often prefer commitment in solid, structured relationships over superficial or uncertain interactions.

 

TYPE 6 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 9

 

When in integration, you tend to develop the positive aspects of your personality. This translates into a greater ability to let go and adopt a calmer attitude towards the uncertainties of life. You learn to detach from constant vigilance and fear, cultivating inner peace and stability. By freeing yourself from the need to constantly anticipate danger, you find a balance between caution and relaxation, becoming more open to experiences without being overwhelmed by anxiety.

 

Affirmation and Confidence in the Future

 

  • The type 6, in integration towards type 9, learns to trust their instincts and act with confidence in sometimes uncertain environments. They develop a greater inner serenity that replaces constant vigilance and anxiety with a sense of calm and clarity. This integration allows them to free themselves from the fear of failure or isolation and actively engage with their environment, with renewed confidence in their ability to overcome challenges.

 

Liberation from the Fear of Uncertainty

  • The type 6 learns to detach from their tendency to doubt themselves and constantly seek guarantees. They realize that their strength lies not only in preparation or anticipation, but also in their ability to make decisions and act with confidence, even in the face of the unknown. By integrating this new perspective, they find a balance between their natural caution and a more proactive approach in their relationships and projects, strengthening their ability to face uncertainty with calm and clarity.

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Balance between Foresight and Action

  • In integration, the type 6 learns not to be overwhelmed by excessive thinking and analysis. They discover that they can combine their ability to assess risks with concrete and confident action.                                        This ability to blend preparation and commitment allows them to channel their energy more effectively, finding a balance between managing concerns and implementing solutions, thus having a tangible impact on the world around them.

 

​​​PROFILE 6 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 3

In disintegration towards Profile 3, you begin accumulating goals and projects, relying on performance to ease your doubts. Your quest for approval pushes you to measure your self-esteem and seek the validation of others. You adopt a competitive stance, comparing your results to those of others, at the risk of exhausting yourself to stay on top. These behaviors represent a conversion of your Profile 6 anxiety into a pursuit of success, which can distance you from your need for authenticity and support.

Mental Distraction and Escape from Discomfort:

  • In disintegration towards Profile 3, you seek projects and goals to fill your inner insecurity. You avoid responsibilities and uncomfortable emotions by engaging in activities aimed primarily at visible and immediate success. Your focus shifts to the appearance of performance and short-term results. Your need for security transforms into a quest, where you measure your worth by tangible achievements rather than authentic connections.

Accumulation of Achievements and Lack of Depth:

  • In disintegration towards Profile 3, you multiply superficial goals and trophies without ever connecting to your true needs or emotions. This frantic quest for social validation creates an inner void, as no achievement fills your need for authenticity in the long term.                                                                                            You may appear hyperactive and always seeking attention, but in reality, you are avoiding facing your inner world.

​​Disengagement and Loss of Focus:

  • In disintegration towards Profile 3, you gradually lose your ability to engage sincerely. Instead of confronting your fears or nurturing your relationships authentically, you flee from any form of introspection. You focus on the pursuit of recognition and success to fill a sense of inadequacy. You justify your restlessness by multiplying projects or opportunities to impress others. This mechanism strengthens your inner void and heightens the superficiality of your actions.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For you, this wound manifests as a deep fear of not meeting the expectations of others, generating a fear of being rejected or left out. This fear of rejection drives you to constantly seek security in your relationships and to anchor yourself in solid connections. You develop excessive vigilance, striving to avoid rejection by making yourself indispensable or being overly attentive to the needs of others. Thus, every action becomes an attempt to secure your place and preserve your sense of belonging. Over time, this constant striving can lead to emotional exhaustion and hinder your ability to express your true needs and desires, as the fear of exclusion overshadows your own voice.

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

For you, this wound manifests as a constant feeling of not being sufficiently supported or loved, generating a fear of being left alone or abandoned. You tend to seek stable and reassuring relationships while cultivating a deep anxiety about the idea of being abandoned. This need for support pushes you to align with others’ expectations and avoid situations where you would feel emotionally vulnerable. You protect yourself through excessive caution and foresight. Over time, this unrelenting vigilance can lead to emotional exhaustion and undermine your ability to trust both yourself and others, making genuine connection more difficult.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE

 

For you, the injustice wound manifests as a sense of inequality or not being treated fairly. You often feel that your efforts are undervalued, leading to frustration. This wound drives you to seek constant validation and reassurance from others, while striving to create security structures that align with your integrity. You may become sensitive to perceived injustices, sometimes resisting the rigidity of others. This ongoing struggle for fairness can disconnect you from your true worth, as you look for approval outside yourself instead of embracing your intrinsic value. Over time, this relentless quest for external justice can drain your energy and obscure your capacity to recognize and honor your own inherent dignity.

 

WOUND OF BETRAYAL

 

For you, the betrayal wound manifests as a deep mistrust and a fear of being deceived or abandoned by those you trust. You have a tendency to anticipate problems and protect yourself through foresight, ensuring that you won’t be caught off guard. This need for security drives you to constantly evaluate the intentions of others and surround yourself with people you perceive as trustworthy. Every suspicion of betrayal strengthens your need for control and security. This constant vigilance can lead to emotional distance and make it difficult to fully trust others, even when they have proven their loyalty. Over time, this guarded stance can isolate you, preventing the development of genuine intimacy and reinforcing a cycle of suspicion.

 

WOUND OF HUMILIATION

The wound of humiliation manifests as a fear of being perceived as incapable or vulnerable in the eyes of others. You often feel uncomfortable at the thought of not meeting social or personal expectations. This drives you to over-control yourself, to avoid any form of exposure to criticism, and to constantly strive to prove your competence. You protect yourself by reinforcing your defense mechanisms and your need for external validation.

Over time, your quest for validation can erode your self‑esteem, making it more difficult to form genuine relationships and fully embrace your intrinsic worth.

BEHAVIORS OF PROFILE 6 UNDER PRESSURE

 

Under pressure, as a Profile 6, you may exhibit behaviors aimed at soothing the anxiety generated by the fear of uncertainty, abandonment, or lack of support.

These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to strengthen your sense of security and loyalty. They manifest as an excessive search for guarantees and validation, a tendency to anticipate worst-case scenarios, or constant questioning of authority and established plans.

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THE RISKS OF ADDICTION IN PROFILE 6

When you experience anxiety about being betrayed or discovering that those you trusted are not reliable, you may compensate for this discomfort by constantly seeking evidence of loyalty, questioning others' intentions, or anticipating every sign of disloyalty.

These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to prevent any form of betrayal and protect your sense of belonging.

 

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by a disconnection from your feelings and a refusal to express your needs, placing emotional distance above relational exchange. The search for control becomes an escape from the fear of being hurt or overwhelmed. The refusal of external support exacerbates isolation, making it difficult to break free from this cycle. This creates a vicious circle where emotional distance, though perceived as a protective mechanism, ends up reinforcing the feeling of loneliness.

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

Profile 6 must learn to move beyond its tendency for excessive mistrust and cultivate relational trust. Recognizing that security does not rely on constant verification or contingency planning, but also on the ability to trust, seek support, and engage authentically with others, is key. By daring to express its anxieties and needs, it finds a balance between vigilance and openness. Freeing oneself from the fear of betrayal allows for building strong connections and breaking free from the exhausting cycle of anxious anticipation.

 

Under pressure, as Profile 6, you may exhibit behaviors designed to calm the anxiety generated by the fear of uncertainty, abandonment, or lack of support. These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to maintain a sense of security and prevent any form of betrayal. They manifest as excessive seeking of guarantees and reassurance, constant questioning of others' intentions, or the establishment of "contingency plans" to anticipate the worst-case scenarios.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

Mark Zuckerberg – J.R.R. Tolkien – Sigourney Weaver – Tom Hanks
Bruce Springsteen – Julia Roberts – Malcolm X – Princess Anne
Eminem – Ben Affleck – Ellen Page – Liv Tyler

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CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

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By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

Your personality can develop in an environment where freedom, enthusiasm, and stimulation are highly valued. From childhood, you may have been encouraged to seek new experiences, to look for exciting opportunities. Sometimes, this educational framework emphasizes adventure rather than deep reflection or managing constraints, which can lead your profile to become more scattered, developing a constant need for novelty and a tendency to avoid boredom and routine.

 

When familial affection seems to depend on the ability to seek new experiences or stay busy, the need for stimulation and distraction is strengthened. This can then translate into a tendency to minimize the importance of responsibilities, where the individual seeks reassurance by accumulating pleasures and diversifying their activities. This dynamic can sometimes move them away from their well-being, encouraging them to prioritize excitement over reflection, which can intensify a sense of superficiality.

 

You develop traits oriented towards your ability to explore while having fun. You learn to seek exciting opportunities and focus on immediate pleasures to feel fulfilled.

Even in the absence of a solid structure or constant stability, you develop traits centered on seeking optimism and escaping constraints. You are driven to preserve your freedom, seeking to fill your need for stimulation by staying close to dynamic people.​

Search for Stimulation:

  • You tend to seek stimulating experiences and a sense of validation through your ability to seize opportunities. You are highly sensitive to novelty and the excitement of ideas, seeking to stand out through your enthusiasm and curiosity. Your need to explore and understand the world pushes you to accumulate varied experiences, preferring action and adventure over introspection or reflection. Sometimes, you may feel the need to escape the constraints of commitments..

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Requirement for Freedom:

  • You can be very demanding of yourself and others when you feel that your options are limited or your freedom is restricted. You judge your own value by your ability to seize opportunities and avoid boredom, and may feel intense frustration when you perceive obstacles or restrictive behaviors in your environment.         This dynamic may drive you to constantly seek new experiences or distractions to escape any sense of confinement.​

 

Need for Positive Engagement:

  • You are guided by a strong desire to find relationships and activities that nourish your enthusiasm and joy. You seek to be recognized for your ability to bring lightness and joy, not just for your productivity or seriousness. Convinced that your value lies in your ability to remain positive and inspire others, you often prefer to engage in relationships and projects that are full of exciting possibilities and energy, rather than in routine interactions or meaningless endeavors.

 

PROFILE 7 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 5

 

When integrated, you tend to develop the positive aspects of your personality. This translates into a greater ability to focus, deepen your knowledge, and adopt a more serene approach to the challenges and uncertainties of life. You learn to detach from immediacy and the need for constant stimulation to cultivate a deeper understanding. By developing a deeper trust in yourself, you find balance, becoming more open to meaningful experiences.

Affirmation and Confidence in the Future

  • In integration, you learn to trust your ability to focus and act with assurance in a calmer, more thoughtful environment.                                                                                                                                          You develop greater inner stability, replacing agitation and anxiety with a sense of clarity and depth. This integration allows you to free yourself from the fear of lack and uncertainty and to become actively involved in your environment, with renewed confidence in your ability to deepen your projects.

 

Liberation from the Fear of Discomfort

  • In integration, you learn to detach from your tendency to flee discomfort and to constantly seek distractions. You realize that your true strength lies in your ability to explore the world, but also in your capacity to face moments of solitude and introspection. By integrating this new perspective, you will find a balance between your desire for stimulation and your ability to appreciate moments of calm, without feeling limited by the fear of boredom or emptiness.

 

Balance Between Freedom and Responsibility

 

  • Integration teaches you not to be overwhelmed by the constant search for pleasure and adventure. You discover that you can combine your need for freedom with greater responsibility in your projects and relationships. This ability to blend excitement and stability allows you to channel your energy more constructively, finding a balance between exploration and commitment, to live enriching and lasting experiences.

 

PROFILE 7 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 1

 

During disintegration, you begin to display the less constructive facets of your personality. You feel compelled to amass distractions and chase ever‑stronger stimulation, fixating only on immediate gratification. You may flee from your own emotions, throwing yourself into new opportunities and thrilling activities in hopes of feeling accepted and secure. This relentless pursuit of novelty causes you to neglect your deeper emotional needs—and over time, it can leave you feeling hollow, disconnected, and even more unsettled within.

 

Mental Dispersal and Fleeing from Discomfort:

 

  • During disintegration, you begin to exhibit the less constructive sides of your personality. This manifests as an urge to escape reality, causing you to shirk responsibilities and withdraw from emotional commitments. You become fixated on fleeting pleasures and instant gratification, at the expense of your deeper needs. Your craving for inner security gives way to an unrelenting pursuit of stimulation, as you attempt to fill an inner void. Over time, this restless behavior only deepens your sense of emptiness and heightens your disconnection from your true self.

 

Accumulation of Achievements and Lack of Depth:

 

  • During disintegration, you become overly fixated on external achievements and the pursuit of validation, all while neglecting your own emotional needs. You may feel an inner emptiness and attempt to fill it by accumulating successes, yet never find lasting satisfaction. This relentless chase for approval scatters your focus—seeking attention and recognition—while you continually avoid confronting your deeper feelings and true desires. Over time, this pattern erodes your sense of authenticity and leaves you feeling fragmented, exhausted, and disconnected from yourself.

 

Avoidance of Authentic Commitment and Search for Validation:

 

  • During disintegration, you lose the capacity to invest in genuine, thoughtful commitments. Rather than confronting your fears or nurturing authentic relationships, you may resort to avoidance—pouring your energy into chasing recognition and success in order to feel valued. You might rationalize your restlessness by diving into new projects or grasping at chances to impress others, yet each victory only deepens your sense of emptiness and superficiality. Ultimately, this cycle keeps you from addressing your true emotional needs and undermines the possibility of forming real, lasting bonds.

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For you, this wound is characterized by a deep fear of being limited or constrained. This feeling fuels a fear of lacking freedom, leading you to avoid serious commitments and prioritize distractions. You develop strong anxiety at the idea of routine and a tendency to protect yourself from this feeling of rejection by constantly surrounding yourself with new stimulation and dynamic people. This quest becomes a strategy to escape anything that could restrict your freedom, further reinforcing your difficulty in settling down and accepting situations that require sustained attention and commitment.

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

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Your wound manifests as a deep fear of becoming trapped or limited by overly demanding relationships or responsibilities that could restrict your freedom.  This fear leads you to convince yourself that you must avoid deep connections or emotional commitments in order to preserve your independence. You then develop a tendency to flee from overly serious or restrictive relationships, feeling deep discomfort when you perceive the risk of becoming trapped in a situation or relationship that threatens your need for freedom.

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WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For you, injustice manifests as a deep feeling of not being taken seriously or recognized for your ability to live fully and enjoy life. You may feel frustration when it seems to you that there is a lack of appreciation for your energy, enthusiasm, or creativity.

This wound generates mistrust towards social expectations and constraints, leading you to turn away from situations where you risk feeling limited or suffocated.

You tend to constantly seek new opportunities that allow you to feel free, far from any restrictions.

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WOUND OF BETRAYAL

For you, the betrayal wound manifests as a deep fear of being limited or trapped by those in whom you have placed your trust. This feeling generates constant vigilance toward others' expectations and obligations, pushing you to anticipate any situation that could restrict your freedom or prevent you from following your own path. The fear of being forced or deprived of your lightness leads you to distrust overly serious commitments and avoid any form of dependency or relational responsibility. You may tend to flee from situations that seem too engaging or restrictive.

WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For the Epicurean, the humiliation wound manifests as an intense fear of being perceived as boring, limited, or incapable of living fully and exploring the many possibilities available to you. This feeling generates anxiety about being stuck in monotonous situations or having your adventurous and pleasurable capacities questioned. You may fear being judged for your lack of seriousness or your absence of deep emotional commitment, causing you to fluctuate between a need to protect yourself behind distractions and a tendency to avoid any situation where you might feel limited or constrained.

BEHAVIORS OF PROFILE 7 UNDER STRESS


Under pressure, you manifest behaviors designed to alleviate the anxiety generated by the fear of being trapped, deprived of freedom, or confronted with suffering. These unconscious reactions serve as defense mechanisms to escape emotional discomfort. They translate into mental dispersion, a flight to avoid boredom or pain. You tend to multiply activities to distract yourself from what destabilizes you, focusing on the present moment.

 

THE RISKS OF ADDICTION IN PROFILE 7


For the Enthusiast, the risks of addiction or dependency appear when you feel the anxiety of being limited, trapped, or confronted with emotional pain that you prefer to avoid. This drives you to compensate for this discomfort by overindulging in activities, pleasures, or distractions in order to maintain a constant state of excitement. These behaviors, often automatic, aim to avoid boredom and confrontation with deeper emotions. The need for lightness takes precedence over listening, masking a form of existential emptiness.

This tendency can be accompanied by difficulty slowing down, staying present in the moment, or embracing discomfort without trying to extinguish it immediately. The refusal of emotional pain pushes you to multiply projects or pleasures, which may distance you from your authentic feelings. This can sometimes create relational instability, fueled by an unconscious fear of deep attachment or emotional boredom. Learning to savor the moment without filling it becomes a path toward more presence and grounding.

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

You need to learn to balance your need for stimulation and freedom with a more grounded and present awareness in the moment. It is essential to cultivate a relationship with yourself that is not solely based on distraction, optimism, or the accumulation of experiences, but also on the acceptance of limits and uncomfortable emotions. By developing a deep connection to your feelings and learning to embrace the void without running from it, you can find lasting inner peace.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

Robin Williams – Jim Carrey – Richard Branson – Cameron Diaz
Robert Downey Jr. – Miley Cyrus – Steven Spielberg – Katy Perry
Eddie Murphy – Russell Brand – Walt Disney – Quentin Tarantino​​

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

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By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

Your Type 8 personality can develop in an environment where strength, independence, and control are highly valued. You may have been encouraged to take charge, assert your power, and defend what you believe is right. Sometimes, this educational framework emphasizes domination and mastery rather than collaboration or emotional management, which can lead Type 8 to become more intense, developing a constant need for power and a tendency to avoid dependency.

 

For some, especially when familial affection seems to depend on their ability to impose authority or maintain control, the need for power and independence is reinforced. This can manifest in a quest for domination and a tendency to minimize the importance of emotional compromises, seeking reassurance by accumulating successes and diversifying responsibilities. This dynamic can sometimes distance them from their well-being, pushing them to prioritize power and control rather than reflecting on their relationships.

 

You develop early on the idea that your value depends on your ability to assert your power, make decisions, and maintain control. Often evolving in an environment where strength, determination, and independence are valued, you actively seek leadership opportunities to feel legitimate and fulfilled. In the absence of a secure framework, you develop your autonomy and avoid any form of vulnerability. This pushes you to take charge and fiercely preserve your independence.

Search for Mastery​ 

 

  • Type 8 individuals tend to seek situations where they can exercise their power and influence. They are highly sensitive to the opportunity to make decisions and assert their authority, seeking to free themselves from external constraints and lead their own destiny. Their need to feel powerful and in control drives them to engage in environments where they can assert their strength and take initiative while avoiding situations where they might feel vulnerable or restricted.

 

Demand for Autonomy​ 

 

  • You may be very demanding of yourself and others when you feel that your authority is threatened. Judging your own value by your ability to exert total control over your actions and avoid any form of submission, you may experience intense frustration when you perceive attempts at manipulation.                                        This internal tension can lead you to adopt a firmer, even authoritarian, posture to assert your power and protect your personal space.

 

Need for Trust and Respect 

  • You are often driven by a strong desire to build solid and authentic relationships based on loyalty and mutual respect. You seek to be recognized for your ability to defend what you believe in and protect those you love. Convicted that your value lies in your strength and ability to inspire trust, you prefer to engage in relationships and projects where you can assert your influence and where your authority is respected, rather than in superficial or vulnerable interactions.

 

TYPE 8 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 2


When you integrate the Type 2 aspects, you develop the positive aspects of your personality. This is reflected in your increased ability to be more attentive to the needs of others and show warmth and empathy in your relationships. You learn to balance your strength with kindness and generosity, becoming more receptive to the emotions of others and ready to connect more authentically. By developing a deeper trust in your ability to take care of others and create strong connections.

Affirmation and Confidence in the Future 

  • In integration towards Type 8, you learn to trust in your inner power while becoming more vulnerable and attentive to others. You develop a greater ability to connect emotionally, replacing your tendency to dominate with a sense of reciprocity and kindness. This integration allows you to free yourself from your fear of weakness and actively engage in your relationships with renewed confidence in your ability to create deep and sincere bonds.

 

Release of the Fear of Isolation 

  • In integration, you learn to detach from your tendency to withdraw into yourself. You realize that your true strength lies not only in your ability to make decisions and defend your principles but also in your capacity to show compassion. By integrating this new perspective, you find balance between your need for power and your desire to create emotional connections, strengthening your ability to embrace emotions without feeling vulnerable.

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Balance Between Strength and Support 

  • In this process of integration, you learn not to be overwhelmed by the need to control everything. You discover that you can combine your need for power and leadership with a softer and more supportive approach in your relationships. This ability to balance authority and attentiveness to others allows you to channel your energy more constructively, finding a balance between protection and emotional connection that you establish, for deeper and more enriching experiences.

TYPE 8 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 5

 

When you disintegrate, you begin to manifest less controlled aspects of your personality. You become more suspicious, more impulsive, and seek to impose your point of view with force in an attempt to maintain control in the face of an inner sense of threat. Listening to others diminishes, replaced by a need to dominate or protect yourself. In trying to avoid vulnerability, you cut yourself off from your emotions and risk losing touch with your values, retreating into a defensive and conflict-driven mode.

 

Avoidance of authenticity and search for ownership

  • In disintegration, the Type 8 may avoid authenticity by focusing solely on others and forgetting to reconnect with their own emotions and truths. They become more dependent on admiration and external validation to boost their self-esteem.                                                                                                                          This quest for recognition can make their actions superficial, driven by the desire to please rather than by deep personal goals, intensifying their inner dissatisfaction.

Dominance and Search for Validation:

 

  • You often become obsessed with the idea of being loved and recognized for your actions, but this search for validation can harm your integrity. Rather than maintaining healthy and determined leadership, you may seek to be loved at all costs, attempting to emotionally dominate situations and impose your authority to fill an inner sense of insecurity. This need for control often masks a deep fear of vulnerability and a refusal to acknowledge your own flaws.

Loss of Control and Search for Affection:

  • You lose sight of your role as a leader and become more reactive to your emotions and the expectations of others. You become more inclined to avoid situations that would confront you with your own limits, seeking to fulfill your emotional needs through superficially engaging relationships. Instead of maintaining your independence and control, you become dependent on external relationships to feel valued, which ultimately harms your autonomy and your ability to act with clarity.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

For the Leader, the rejection wound manifests as an intense fear of being perceived as weak, powerless, or disrespected. This feeling triggers a compensatory reaction, where the need for affirmation takes precedence over vulnerability. To avoid being rejected or humiliated, they adopt a posture of strength and control. Every action becomes a way to prove they don't need anyone, thus protecting themselves from the humiliation of being pushed aside or judged inadequate. This armor of power often conceals a deep, hidden sensitivity, difficult even for the leader to acknowledge.

​WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

For the Leader, abandonment translates into a deep fear of being betrayed or left alone in the face of adversity. This feeling generates constant mistrust toward others and a need to control everything to avoid dependence on anyone. They seek to avoid emotional dependency, convinced that relying on others is a path to loss.

Every bond is tested for its reliability, and any breach in loyalty triggers a strategic retreat or a defensive reaction. Beneath this defensive posture lies a strong desire for authentic connection, often suppressed for fear of being hurt again.

 

WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For the Leader, the injustice wound manifests as a refusal to submit to authority perceived as unjust or arbitrary. They cannot tolerate abuse of power or rules imposed without coherence. This profile intensely feels imbalances and often positions themselves as a defender of the vulnerable. Any situation where they feel wronged or controlled can ignite explosive anger, driven by the need to restore fairness according to their own standards of loyalty and honesty. Their intense reaction to injustice hides a deep attachment to the values of respect, truth, and dignity.

WOUND OF BETRAYAL

For the Leader, betrayal is one of the most painful wounds, experienced as a direct attack on their trust. They give their loyalty cautiously, but once given, any rupture or disappointment is perceived as an unbearable affront. This wound fuels their need to control relationships and anticipate any possible weakness.

Every bond becomes a test of strength, and any crack is a threat to neutralize in order to avoid a new wound. Their mistrust is often proportional to the depth of their attachment, which they hide behind a facade of independence.

 

WOUND OF HUMILIATION

For the Leader, humiliation manifests as a fear of being exposed in their vulnerability or publicly degraded. They dread situations where they could lose face or be dominated. To defend themselves from this pain, they wear a mask of power, assurance, and provocation.

They prefer to attack rather than risk being diminished. Every criticism or judgment is interpreted as a danger, leading them to react intensely to preserve their integrity and image of strength. This reactivity hides a great sensitivity to personal injustice, often concealed behind a posture of control.

BEHAVIORS OF TYPE 8 UNDER STRESS

 

Under pressure, as a Type 8, you may adopt behaviors of domination or excessive control, driven by the fear of being betrayed or weakened. Often without fully realizing it, you seek to strengthen your position through force or authority, rather than showing your doubts or wounds.

This defense mechanism aims to conceal inner vulnerability, while risking alienating yourself from others and reinforcing constant mistrust in your relationships.

 

THE RISKS OF ADDICTION IN TYPE 8

 

When you feel the anxiety of losing control, being betrayed, or appearing weak, you may seek to compensate for this discomfort by adopting behaviors of overcompensation, such as overinvestment in action, excessive authority, or a heightened need to control everything.

These reactions, often unconscious, serve as defense mechanisms to soothe deep insecurity and mask any form of vulnerability perceived as dangerous.

This behavioral drift is often accompanied by rigidity in relationships, a refusal to delegate, and a fierce desire to control everything to avoid potential threats. The constant search for power and control becomes an escape from internal tensions and the fear of losing control.

Failing to recognize your own limits or struggling to accept help only fuels this cycle, making it particularly difficult to break free from this spiral.

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

You need to learn to balance your need for control and assertion by being more authentic and open to the world around you. You must cultivate a self-esteem that does not rely solely on the exercise of power, but also on sincere relationships and mutual respect. By having a more balanced view of yourself, you will find the equilibrium between strength and receptivity. Freeing yourself from the fear of being perceived as weak will allow you to experience deeper relationships and avoid the endless quest for control and independence.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

 

Margaret Thatcher – Fidel Castro – Beyoncé – Jeff Bezos
Winston Churchill – Serena Williams – Pablo Picasso – Frank Sinatra
Indira Gandhi – Pink – Henry Ford – Arnold Schwarzenegger​

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

It is essential to remember that there is no “good” or “bad” profile. This journey of discovery is designed to support you in better understanding your behaviors, your deepest motivations, and the recurring patterns that shape your life. As you explore what follows, you will become aware that, from birth, we are conditioned and programmed by suggestions that govern and define our being. Suggestion forms the foundation of hypnosis and NLP; your decision to take this test shows that you have already sensed the need to deprogram yourself and to move beyond your hypnotic trance state.

​​

By acknowledging these aspects of yourself, you will have the opportunity to better understand your reactions to challenging situations, while paving the way for a more harmonious personal development. This will enable you to transform your vulnerabilities into catalysts for growth and to evolve into a more fulfilled version of yourself. Before going further, you will discover what the Enneagram is and how our personality is structured around certain mechanisms. I wish you a wonderful journey of self-discovery.

The Enneagram is a tool for understanding
thought patterns and behaviors.
It is a personality classification system
that identifies nine profiles,
represented by the numbers 1 through 9

 

Each of these profiles corresponds to a set
of dominant character traits, deep motivations,
and behavioral patterns.
Your profile determines your map of the world.
But remember: the map is not the territory.

 

By understanding your profile, this tool provides you
a valuable framework to explore the internal dynamics
that influence your actions and your way
of perceiving the world, fostering a better
understanding of yourself… and others.

 

Your profile is determined from conception by epigenetic factors that condition you for the rest of your life.
From birth, you are influenced by external elements, such as the environment, parental upbringing, lived experiences, religion, learning, and challenges encountered. But these influences are not limited to what you consciously perceive. Deep biological processes lie at the heart of how your environment shapes the expression of your genes.

 

Epigenetics is the study of the mechanisms by which genes can be turned on or off without altering the DNA sequence, in response to environmental, behavioral, or emotional factors.

These changes can be inherited from one generation to the next. In other words, certain traumas, emotional wounds, or learned behaviors from your parents — or even your ancestors — can become biologically embedded in your makeup, just like the genes themselves.

 

An experiment on the intergenerational transmission of fear was conducted in mice. In this study, adult mice were exposed to an odor associated with a predator—such as that of a cat—which triggered a natural fear response in them. The descendants of these mice, despite never having been directly exposed to this odor, displayed fear behaviors when later presented with the same scent. These findings suggest that fear-related emotions can be passed down to the next generation.

 

This demonstrates that emotional experiences such as fear can be passed down from one generation to the next through mechanisms that influence the behavior and emotional responses of offspring, even without direct exposure to the same stimuli. It confirms that your ancestors bequeath to you part of their genetic heritage, along with emotional responses that shape your development long before your birth.
This emotional inheritance plays a key role in your development.

 

HOW DO WE INHERIT THESE MECHANISMS

Our genetic heritage consists of two alleles per gene, with 50 % inherited from each of our parents.
This means that for each gene, we receive one allele from the father and one allele from the mother, forming a pair of alleles. Each parent has two possible alleles for a given gene but transmits only one of these alleles to the child. Consequently, we have a one-in-two chance from the father’s side and a one-in-two chance from the mother’s side of inheriting a specific allele.

 

If one of the father’s alleles is modified by a genetic factor, we have a one-in-two chance of inheriting it.
The same goes for the mother’s side. Thus, if both parents each carry a modified allele, the probability of the child inheriting both modified alleles is 25 %. This means we have a one-in-four chance of inheriting the modified genetic factor from both parents. This principle also applies to epigenetic transmission, which influences gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

 

FORMATION OF YOUR THOUGHT PATTERN

 

To understand how this works, imagine two six-year-old children, monozygotic twins from the same egg, often referred to as “true” twins. They are often described as being like clones: perfect copies of each other, sometimes reversed as if by a mirror reflection. It is even said that if one is injured, the other can feel the pain, even over great distances. This unique connection continues to intrigue science, as it illustrates the power of the link between biology, cellular memory, and emotional perception.

 

Although they share a strong resemblance, identical genetic heritage, and a common upbringing, twins can develop different personalities due to epigenetic factors. Their personality is shaped not only by external environmental influences but also by their internal states, known as mindsets.
This epigenetic dimension means that twins with the same DNA can express certain genes differently, depending on their life experiences, surroundings, or even those of their ancestors.

 

To understand, imagine these twins waking one morning, ready to go to the beach with their mother.
The first twin wakes up full of energy, excited at the idea of spending a fun day at the beach.
His brother, meanwhile, feels a bit unwell—with a stuffy nose and still tired. Although he would have preferred to stay in bed, he decides, to please his mother, to get up and join them.
We can therefore consider that these two brothers do not share the same mindset at that precise moment.

 

Arriving at the beach, they watch the sea. A huge wave crashes over them and thrashes them about.
The healthy twin experiences this as an exciting adventure. For him, it’s a game, and he doesn’t hesitate to jump into the next wave because he’s having fun. His brother perceives the same experience as a traumatic ordeal. His only reaction is to cry in his mother’s arms, frightened by what just happened.
This difference in perception of a similar experience could be influenced by epigenetic factors.

 

Indeed, sensitivity to fear or trauma can sometimes be linked to emotional experiences lived and passed down by past generations. A trauma experienced by an ancestor—such as a water-related danger—could be transmitted from one generation to the next and reactivate that fear in one of the twins, who has inherited one or both of his parents’ alleles, while the other remains unaffected, lacking that information in his genetic inheritance.
Thirty years later, the two brothers must take the ferry across rough seas.

 

The first recalls the beach with enthusiasm, while the second feels fear when remembering that day.
Their reactions, rooted in thought patterns formed during childhood, continue to influence their behavior in adulthood. This divergence reflects a different expression of epigenetic factors that condition their emotional response. Thus, these emotional patterns can persist beyond individual experiences, traverse generations, and unconsciously shape behavior.

 

The Enneagram helps you understand how these thought patterns develop and influence emotions and behaviors throughout life. For example, if one of the twins is a Type 7, they will constantly seek adventure and excitement. If the other is a Type 6, they will always anticipate danger and strive to protect themselves.
The impact of epigenetics can also explain why one of the twins develops a stronger propensity for fear— inherited from prior traumas—even though they grew up in a similar environment.

 

When our senses are stimulated by our environment, the brain activates to process the information received.
It scans its memory for a similar experience that might resonate with the present situation.
This resonance with a memory generates an emotion. The emotion thus evoked acts as a defense mechanism, preparing the person to respond to the stimulus.
It triggers an automatic response, allowing one to manage stress or potential danger.

 

UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED

 

Your Profile 9 personality can develop in an environment where harmony, tranquility, and avoidance of conflict are prioritized, fostering a strong need for peace and cohesion.

Sometimes, this educational framework may be marked by a certain indifference or overly conciliatory, even absent, parents, which accentuates your tendency to blend in and seek relational stability. However, it is important to note that each experience is unique.

 

For some, particularly when family love is fluctuating or in an environment where disagreements are suppressed, this need for calm and consideration intensifies and manifests as an external quest for harmony, where you seek to preserve peace at all costs.

Children of Profile 9 integrate these values of kindness and moderation despite the initial absence of support for self-assertion or encouragement to freely express their opinions.

You develop character traits oriented towards seeking serenity and consensus.

You are driven to maintain balance and avoid confrontations to fill an emotional void and prove your worth by being accommodating.

As you grow, you seek to adapt to external expectations and restore inner well-being, relentlessly pursuing agreement and peace, regardless of its origin.

Relational Harmony Seeking:​

 

  • Profile 9 individuals tend to prioritize a peaceful atmosphere and emotional connection, avoiding conflict in their relationships. You keenly feel differences and often seek to soothe them, fearing discord or rupture. Your need to maintain tranquility pushes you to constantly adapt, sometimes sacrificing your own desires to preserve the calm. As a result, you often find yourself in a pattern of self-effacement that can make you neglect your true needs and aspirations.

 

Avoidance of Confrontation and Masked Passivity:

 

  • You may retreat into yourself or avoid any form of disagreement when you fear disappointing or provoking tension. This attitude sometimes leads you to suppress your opinions, preferring to agree or withdraw. You may then feel misunderstood or harbor inner frustration, without expressing it.                                       Gradually, this avoidance reflex can intensify your fear of conflict and further isolate you from your own feelings.

 

Attachment to Tacit Recognition:

 

  • You are often motivated by a desire to be accepted and valued for your availability and accommodating nature. You aspire to preserve harmonious relationships by constantly adapting to the expectations of those around you, hoping to be noticed or supported. You believe that your quiet efforts should be enough to be recognized, a sentiment stemming from a family environment where your need for affirmation was not always acknowledged.

 

PROFILE 9 IN INTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 3

 

When you integrate towards Type 3, you develop the positive aspects of your personality. This translates into an increased ease in taking initiatives and stepping out of your reserve. You learn to recognize your priorities and express your needs more clearly, while maintaining your willingness to cooperate.

This evolution fosters a renewed balance in your relationships, allowing you to combine assertiveness with a sense of harmony.

 

Flourishing and Progressive Affirmation:

 

  • As a Type 3, you learn to better understand yourself and embrace your ambitions without fearing potential conflicts. You realize that it is possible to act proactively to achieve your goals while remaining sensitive to the needs of those around you.                                                                                                                  This transformation allows you to be more present with yourself, build your confidence, and strengthen your self-esteem, all while preserving the inner peace that is dear to your nature.

 

Liberation from the Passive Mode:

  • As you integrate, you gradually detach from the passive stance that forced you to suppress your desires.      You discover the power of more direct communication, avoiding misunderstandings related to the systematic avoidance of disagreement.                                                                                                                    By embracing this new dynamic, you find a balance between self-assertion and listening to others, paving the way for more sincere exchanges and more balanced relationships.

 

Balance between Adaptation and Initiative:

 

  • In this integration process, you learn to reconcile the flexibility inherent in Profile 9 with the drive for achievement characteristic of Profile 3. You realize that it is possible to maintain a serene atmosphere while making bold decisions aligned with your values.                                                                                      This ability to claim your choices allows you to fully live your projects without breaking relational harmony, thus fostering more complete personal growth.

 

PROFILE 9 IN DISINTEGRATION TOWARDS TYPE 6

 

In disintegration, you begin to manifest the more passive and evasive aspects of your personality. Your need for harmony may then transform into inner inertia, accompanied by increasing disengagement or a vague sense of frustration. You gradually withdraw, oscillating between avoidance and resignation, which fuels a loss of connection with your deeper desires. Your energy, instead of being directed towards building peaceful relationships, becomes diluted in indecision and self-forgetfulness.

 

Internal Tensions and Silent Withdrawal:

 

  • In disintegration, the Profile 9 often becomes overwhelmed by emotional fatigue and difficulty in facing latent conflicts. You may try to minimize your needs or ignore tensions, while feeling an unexpressed inner frustration. This tug-of-war between the desire for peace and unspoken discomfort can push you towards isolation. You may find yourself trapped in a posture of withdrawal, gradually diminishing the quality of your connections and vitality.

 

Exacerbation of Avoidance:

 

  • You often become inclined to avoid any engaging decisions, preferring to let others choose for you to avoid potential disagreements. You turn away from your personal power, allowing your environment to dictate the course of things, even if it goes against your true desires.                                                                      While you feel an increasing emptiness, the need for peace outweighs the need for alignment, distancing you further from yourself and others.

 

Confusion between Peace and Emotional Disengagement

 

  • As a Type 9, you struggle to distinguish between the true search for inner harmony and an emotional avoidance state, where you disconnect from your feelings to escape any form of conflict. You cling to an apparent calm, putting aside your true needs and emotions. This resistance to making decisions or fully engaging sometimes leads you to apathy. Out of fear of conflict, you distance yourself from yourself. By positioning yourself clearly and authentically, you restore your deeper connections.​​​

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THE IMPACT OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS

 

WOUND OF REJECTION

 

For the Mediator, the rejection wound manifests as a persistent feeling of being transparent or insignificant in the eyes of others. This sensation feeds a deep fear of not being appreciated or accepted, driving this profile to constantly avoid disagreements in order to preserve harmony and approval from those around them. The need to be included and recognized leads them to fade into the background, sacrificing their own needs to avoid any potential criticism or rejection. Every behavior becomes an attempt to maintain relational peace, hoping to protect themselves from the painful feeling of being excluded or forgotten.

 

WOUND OF ABANDONMENT

 

For the Mediator, the abandonment wound manifests as a persistent fear of being ignored, left out, or forgotten by those around them. This feeling generates deep anxiety, fueled by the fear of being invisible or insignificant. To preserve their relationships, they seek to avoid conflict by adapting to others, sometimes sacrificing their own desires to maintain harmony.

Each action becomes a subtle effort to avoid isolation, ensuring their place within the group while trying to discreetly fill their fear of being emotionally forgotten.

WOUND OF INJUSTICE

For the Pacemaker, the wound of injustice often manifests as the feeling of not being listened to, considered, or recognized for one's true value. This feeling leads to silent frustration and anxiety in the face of conflict, pushing this profile to constantly prioritize peace and compromise.

The need to preserve relational harmony translates into a deep desire to avoid any form of direct confrontation or rupture. Every interaction thus becomes an opportunity to subtly restore emotional balance, striving to maintain cohesion at all costs.

 

WOUND OF BETRAYAL

 

For the Pacemaker, the betrayal wound is experienced as a deep sense of having been ignored, neglected, or forgotten by those they relied on. This feeling generates a constant worry related to the fear of being rejected or excluded, prompting this profile to continuously seek harmony and relational stability.

The need to feel integrated and accepted manifests as an increased desire to avoid any conflict or disagreement in order to prevent ruptures or tensions. Every interaction then becomes an opportunity to strengthen their sense of belonging.

WOUND OF HUMILIATION

 

For the Pacemaker, there is a sense of not mattering or being forgotten due to their lack of self-assertion. This creates anxiety related to the fear of rejection and conflict with others. They constantly seek harmony and acceptance by avoiding disagreements.

They tend to ignore their own needs, interpreting any discomfort or frustration as a threat to their inner peace. This desire to fade into the background to maintain peace leads to a gradual forgetting of themselves, reinforcing their belief that they don't really matter.

 

BEHAVIORS OF THE TYPE 9 UNDER PRESSURE

 

Under pressure, as a Type 9, you may adopt behaviors aimed at maintaining superficial peace, out of fear of conflict or rejection.

Often without fully realizing it, you prioritize discretion and immobility rather than direct confrontation or clarifying your needs. This defense mechanism serves to mask inner insecurity, while risking further isolation and nurturing suppressed anger.

 

THE RISKS OF ADDICTION FOR TYPE 9

 

For the Pacemaker, the risks of addiction or dependency arise when you feel the anxiety of an impending conflict or disagreement that might disturb your inner peace.

You may try to ease this discomfort through avoidance behaviors, such as withdrawal, passivity, or over-adapting to the expectations of others. These reactions, often unconscious, respond to a deep need to preserve harmony and remain safe from external tensions.

 

This tendency can be accompanied by a gradual loss of your personal will, as well as difficulty in clearly expressing your needs or desires.

The refusal to disturb or provoke fosters a silent spiral of renunciation, making it difficult to access authentic self-assertion. It can also create a form of distance in your relationships, nurturing unspoken words and a feeling of mutual misunderstanding.

 

HOW TO AVOID DISINTEGRATION

 

Break free from the tendency to fade into the background and cultivate a more assertive and conscious presence of yourself. It is essential to recognize that harmony does not come from avoiding conflict, but from authenticity in expressing your needs. By developing self-esteem independent of external approval and daring to take a stand, you will find a balance between peace and active engagement. Freeing yourself from the fear of disagreement allows you to have sincere relationships by reconnecting with your deep desires.

 

PERSONALITIES WHO SHARE YOUR TYPE 

 

Keanu Reeves – Carl Rogers – Queen Elizabeth II – Audrey Tautou
Morgan Freeman – Abraham Lincoln – Zooey Deschanel – Jeff Bridges
George Harrison – Laura Dern – Gerald Ford – Alicia Keys

 

CONCLUSIONS

 

Understanding your thought pattern through the Enneagram represents a valuable opportunity to explore your personal development in depth. It not only allows you to highlight your strengths but also to identify areas of vulnerability that deserve attention and work.

By clearly defining your type and becoming aware of the impact of your emotional wounds, you begin to reveal the unconscious dynamics that influence your behaviors — whether they are empowering or limiting — and that are triggered in response to emotions activated by your environment.

You may have already noticed that it is not so much the event itself that affects you, but rather the emotional charge it awakens within you. The therapist's goal is not to erase your emotions but to support you in how you perceive them, working on their intensity, form, or tone.
In therapy, aware that nature abhors a vacuum, we guide you to transform your emotional experience — not by suppressing it, but by allowing you to reinvest it differently.
By shifting the way you perceive your emotions, your outlook on them — and on yourself — is transformed.

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